As a mom with donor conceived children I have been doing what I can to put the word out there that I am open to finding half-siblings for my children. I post on my blog and elsewhere the Sperm Donors ID that we used and up until recently I had found one half-sibling on the DSR and another mom contacted me through my blog that she also had a child using Sperm donor BGM 9581 from Xytex. I was thrilled about this news and excited that in the future my children would be able to know their half siblings if they choose to. But today that number changed. I have been a part of a Facebook group ” Xytex Offspring and Donors ” and a discussion started up about how many children people were finding out their donors had produced. Of course I had heard about the numbers being high, in fact I saw one story on TV were a man had upwards of 150, but I suppose my head was in the clouds thinking that my donor might only have about 10 offspring. I did not realize how easy it was to call up them sperm bank and give them your donor number and find out. In a phone call that lasted less then 60 seconds with a very pleasant women from Xytex this morning I found out that my donor had 23 “reported” births worldwide. I think I was a little bit in shock, because I have heard the stats from them the DSR are that only about 20% – 40% of people report their births. So my head is certainly spinning from this new bit of information. Immediately my mind goes to who are they/where are they. I now that of those 23 I account for 3 of the reported births, and I don’t know if the other moms that I have been in touch with have reported their births. Geez, how many are unreported?????
So my day goes on as planned with me being just a little less focused on the daily activities as I will admit that my thoughts this morning are being completely consumed by the number #23 ….. and counting!










Makes me wonder if they are reported but not counted so that more sperm can be used. We were told by our doctor that our donor was only allowed 10 births. Wich we now know is false.
I really don’t understand how these doctors and clinics seem to be getting away with blatantly lying to their patients and customers. Honestly my clinic (here in canada) never volunteered the information to me either way and in my haste to just get pregnant and have kids it never crossed my mind to ask. I wish their had been a do’s and dont’s list to buying sperm when I was doing it, might have made me think twice about some of my decisions.